TIME Magazine and Dr. Sears ask: Are You Mom Enough?
Of course this question has sparked blog post after blog post. I am not offended by the photo, the article or anything other than the fact that women are criticizing one another and competing to be the “best mom”. What does that even mean?
- A condition or state of being the thing or being in the role denoted by the word it is suffixed to, usually a noun.
- child – childhood
- A group sharing a specified condition or state.
- brother – brotherhood
- neighbor – neighborhood
Did you read that?! A group. GROUP!
Why bash one another?
I cloth-diapered my son for the first 6 months, breastfed for 2 years and still co-sleep. What parenting philosophy fits me? Honestly, I don’t care. I don’t call myself an “Attachment Parent” or a “Free-Range Parent” or any other title to validate the choices I make.
CafeMom is a website I rarely visit anymore, but when I was a brand new mom, I spent a lot of time in the forums sharing stories and making new “mommy friends”. I was a member of breastfeeding moms groups and cloth diapering groups and most of the other moms in those groups were very nice. During this period of time I noticed that there was a serious “competition” among moms to be “better” than each other and I was flabberghasted.
What’s going on women?!
Breastfeeding is a choice. Cloth diapering is a choice. One choice may or may not be “better” than the next.
We should never make someone feel badly or criticize the way they choose to raise their children as long as it doesn’t physically harm them! There are SO many reasons why people do the things they do, and it’s no ones business but theirs. What about women who’s breast milk doesn’t provide enough for their baby? Are they inadequate mothers? Absolutely not!
I will never question whether I’m “Mom” enough or ANYTHING-enough because as long as I’m enough for myself and my family I am happy. (and you should be too!)
With all that said….